on perfection.

what is 'perfect'? when talking about a person, what does that mean? when talking about an object, or a situation, it usually means having no flaws. but is this what it means for people? because if so, then 'perfect' must be incredibly boring, and i can't imagine anything LESS perfect than that.

when someone is described as being 'too perfect', i can't see it meaning anything other than dull. flaws are what make people interesting, what give people character, and distinguish us from others. what makes one person perfect for another is not the absence of flaws, but flaws that one person can relate to, can overlook, can find endearing. what defines perfect for one person cannot define it for another. i don't want to be with someone that doesn't have flaws, because i certainly have many. some i'd like to work on, others i think i can live with. i am not seeking to eliminate flaws, to chisel away at myself or others so that i am left with something i don't recognize anymore, but to find someone who appreciates me, who i can appreciate, despite all these things... and maybe sometimes, because of them.

sketchbook + subway rides.

(drawing again!)

i love when i end up in a subway car with a bunch of kids on a field trip into the city. its so interesting to see the way they all react to each other and hear the things they joke and laugh about. today it was a group of 9-10 year olds headed to a museum. they were all scrambling for seats so i got up to let a boy sit down. once they were all sitting, they were allowed to eat the snacks they had brought on the train, and the boy promptly pulled out a bag of chips and began munching away. soon the bag was nothing but crumbs, which he would scoop into his hands and pour into his mouth, inevitably getting them all over the front of his jacked and on the floor in front of him. it was so funny to watch this awkward chubby child wedged between two people on their way to work, and their reaction, as he ate his snack oblivious to all around him. i thought it was cute... the people next to him probably didn't agree.